Question 1

What happens after you reach out?

Accepted Answer

I aim to respond within 48 hours. If I think I can help, I’ll offer an initial consultation. If we decide to work together, I’ll ask you to sign a Client Agreement outlining our working relationship. We’ll then agree a regular weekly session time, which will be your reserved slot for the duration of our work.

Question 2

Are session online or in person?

Accepted Answer

I work both online and in person. My in person sessions are based in Peckham, London and Leigh-on-Sea, Essex.

Question 3

When are sessions available?

Accepted Answer

I work Monday to Friday and offer both daytime and evening sessions:

In-person (Peckham): Mondays and Wednesdays - afternoons and evenings
In-person (Leigh-on-Sea): Thursday afternoons or Friday mornings
Online: Tuesday afternoons/evenings or Thursday afternoons or Friday mornings

Question 4

How many sessions will I need?

Accepted Answer

I work with clients on both a short and long term basis. My aim is to support you in building the skills and confidence to leave therapy when it feels right for you. Most clients work with me for around 6–12 months.

Question 5

Which is right for me: sex therapy or relationship therapy?

Accepted Answer

Sex and relationship concerns often overlap, and work in one area can naturally lead into the other. In our initial sessions, we’ll take time to understand what’s going on and shape a way of working together. From there, we’ll decide whether sex therapy, relationship therapy, or a blend of both feels most helpful for you right now.

In some cases, I may recommend engaging in both. Sometimes we can do this within our work together; at other times, it may be more helpful for you to explore one area with another therapist. I’m always happy to suggest trusted colleagues, or you’re welcome to find someone who feels like the right fit for you.

Question 6

Do I need to be in a relationship?

Accepted Answer

Not at all. You’re welcome whether you’re single, in a relationship (or more than one), married, separated, or divorced.

I work with both conventional and non-conventional relationship styles, including open relationships, polyamory, kink, and more, as long as they’re between consenting adults.

Question 7

Do I need to come with a partner?

Accepted Answer

No. You can come alone or with a partner.

A lot of people begin therapy individually, even when the issue is relational. We’ll work with what’s available and what feels right for you, and adjust from there.

Question 8

Is sex therapy just about sex?

Accepted Answer

No. Despite the name, sex therapy isn’t just about sex.

We may talk about sex, but the work often reaches further into intimacy, desire, identity, shame, and connection. More broadly, it’s about how you relate to yourself and what it means for you to feel close, seen, and at ease in your own experience.

Question 9

Will I be asked to talk about sex in detail?

Accepted Answer

Not unless it’s helpful.

We’ll only explore sexual details if they’re relevant to the work, and always at a pace that feels okay for you. You’re never expected to share more than you want to.

If I feel that certain details are important for us to understand what’s going on, I will usually name this first and talk it through with you before going any further. It will always be your choice whether you feel ready to explore that, and we can take things step by step. This may of course shape how we work together.

Question 10

Do you suggest exercises to try between sessions?

Accepted Answer

Trying out exercises can be beneficial, particularly in sex therapy but also in relationship therapy. Any suggestions I make will always be discussed and where appropriate, practised within our sessions first.

There’s no pressure to do anything that doesn’t feel right for you, and we’ll always go at your pace. You’re free to say no, adapt things, or bring back what did or didn’t work so we can think about it together.

Question 11

What if we bump into each other outside of therapy?

Accepted Answer

As well as being a therapist, I’m also a person with a life outside the therapy room, I attend events and am part of different communities.

To maintain your confidentiality, I won’t initiate contact if we see each other outside of sessions. You’re welcome to say hello if you wish, and I’ll respond in a warm but professional way. Where appropriate, I may also choose to step away.

If this feels important to you, we can talk it through together.

Question 12

What if my issue isn’t listed here, or I have a different question?

Accepted Answer

That’s perfectly fine. Most people don’t arrive in therapy with a clear way of describing what’s going on. In my experience, many come unsure of how to fully put their experience into words.

If something has been bothering you, that’s enough. You’re very welcome to get in touch and we can explore whether it’s something I can support you with. If it isn’t, I’ll be happy to suggest a colleague who may be better placed to help.

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